So yeah, call me what you want, but this whole New Year – New You thing is bullshit, IMHO.
I am a HUGE advocate of change. HUGE.
But…I am also a HUGE advocate of NOT making change on January 1st.
Because it’s sort of like the “Monday Diet.” It’s a set up for failure.
Hold on a second, I’m putting my suit of armor on because I know I’m going to get railed on this one.
Who reading this has been beating themselves up because they have yet to do what they promised themselves they would do when 2016 rolled around?
Be honest! Did you complete anything remotely close to what you said you wanted to do in the new year? Please, share in the comments section below.
December is the pits for M-A-N-Y people.
The whole “I love Christmas” vibe does not stretch as far and wide as the Martha Stewarts of the world want us to believe. The grim reality for many is that the holidays are an incredibly difficult time.
Most of the forward thinking, positive and inspiring people in my life who have a daily self-empowering routine have completely fallen off the wagon. Yup. COMPLETELY, myself included. We are all walking around in a big fat daze wonder what the hell happened.
It’s cold, is gloomy, the election has rattled us and as we get deeper into December and the new year looms on the horizon (again…gah), many of us face the grim reality that another year has gone by and we have still not:
- exercised as promised;
- improved our health the way we promised ourselves we would;
- gotten the new job we claimed we wanted;
- started meditating;
- written the book we’ve been talking about;
- lost the weight we claimed we’d lose
- ….insert your own pain point here…
Add to that the pressure that comes with the holidays – family, economic, travel, winter weather, blah, blah, blah– and you have the perfect storm for overwhelm.
YOU don’t have to follow this annual calendar of life events that everyone seems to subject themselves to.
What is up with that?
You should only start new behaviors when you FEEL READY to take them on. Forcing yourself into action because of a calendar date is just freakin’ ridiculous. Especially, if you don’t feel ready to step forward.
Does this mean I don’t think you should have goals?
We all need to have goals. We don’t, however, need to set them for a January 1st start date.
Is this my thinly veiled excuse to not take action?
Nope. Not that either.
Wanna know when I quit smoking? August.
Wanna know when I quit drinking? August
Wanna know when I finally stepped up to the plate and quit consuming gluten? November
I had success with all three because I took on the challenge when I was ready.
I find the end of the year to be an incredibly contemplative time (heavy self-flogging for some). I try to use all the thought that goes on in my heart and mind as an opportunity to get clear on some of my desires.
There has been one particular thing I have been thinking about for weeks that will be the only thing I commit to bringing with me into the new year.
I’m MUCH too hard on myself and if I were a betting woman, I’d say you probably are, too.
Many of the circumstances, goals, outcomes and dreams that we desire in our life never make it to fruition because we don’t BELIEVE we are worthy of them.
Yes, I just said that.
Our inner voice is our biggest saboteur.
We are our own worst enemies.
That tiny voice in the back of your mind that says things like…
- You can’t possible be serious, can you?
- Who do you think you are?
- Don’t you already have enough?
- How dare you ask for more?
- You don’t really think that’s possible, do you?
Yeah, that voice.
Shut that bitch up.
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I believe that I don’t achieve many of my self-imposed goals because I don’t in my heart believe that I am deserving of them.
Yes, I just said that.
It’s a sad and embarrassing statement, for sure, but how I view myself has much to do with the current state of my personal, work and economic well-being. For real!
So…I have decided that in order to move forward with my life I don’t necessarily need to DO something differently in 2017, I need to let go of what I currently believe about myself in order to make room for the things I desire.
I believe, deep down in my heart and soul, that how I feel about ME, dictates every single solitary thing in my day to day life.
And until I get THAT right, no change — not matter what day of the year I begin — is coming my way.
Get yourself some.
You deserve it.